Prioritizing your mental well-being
At this time of the year, people typically set goals or at least begin to do so, especially regarding aspirations related to finance, relationships, careers, etc. For some, it’s about getting married, having a baby, starting grad school, while for others, it’s about changing jobs, getting an additional stream of income, starting a business, expanding a business, raveling more, etc. These are beautiful aspirations; however, many fail to put in place the prerequisite strategy and systems that would undergird their ability and fortitude to successfully navigate the turns and storms inherent in attempts to make progressive changes.
Your mental well-being is one of such strategies and systems, which some call your “head game.” No one can successfully attain, sustain, and truly enjoy growth, greatness, and success without prioritizing one’s mental wellbeing. Therefore, as you plan for the year, include a plan to nurture and nourish your mental well-being as the primary trigger for your aspiration. Some tips include:
-Have a vision for your overall well-being: A vision is simply about having a mental picture of the reality you desire for a specific area of your life. So what picture do you desire for yourself in a year, two years, or five years from now? What will that person look like regarding thought process, emotional intelligence, physical state, communication style, etc.? What’s the strategy for becoming that person, and what paths do you need to take to attain those goals?
-Identify what needs to be done with and let go: According to Dr. Henry Cloud, our dreams for our lives may never come to fruition if we do not let certain things and people go. He calls it “necessary endings”. Some of the misery, pain, turmoil, and distress that cause mental health issues arise from us refusing to let go of things and people that are not good for us and for where we desire to go in life.
-Get comfortable with the discomfort of change: Many are mentally, emotionally, and physically stuck in unhealthy spaces because they are afraid to embrace the discomfort of change. However, the level of peace, joy, growth, and quality of life that comes with welcoming a positive change is worth all the discomfort that comes with it.
-Set clear boundaries: This helps to keep unhealthy and bad stuff out while also protecting what is good and healthy for us.
-Get into counseling: This can never be overemphasized. While some “may not” need it, most of us need the help. It’s part of prioritizing your mental well-being in the journey to becoming the person you envision for the new year.
We wish you a prosperous new year ahead and hope you found this post helpful!
Cloud, H. (2011). Necessary Endings. Harper Collins